Me, Myself & I

[The song for this post is Me, Myself, and I by G-Eazy x Bebe Rexha, truly for the title.] 

Lately I’ve been craving a lot of time with myself.

I’ve been to a bunch of movies on my own, sat in coffee shops reading or writing, gone on solo adventures, indoors and outdoors, but all on my own.

There’s a sense of calm in it all. I’ve become accustomed to really looking forward to this time on my own.

I cherish the moments when the house is empty and I can sit and read in silence, or write in the quiet, or catch up on a show or movie I’ve wanted to see. That time alone is a sanctuary in a way.

My bike rides in the morning allow for a peaceful quiet and bliss even when my mind seems to moving a mile a minute. After a long or tedious day at work I long for time alone. I cherish each moment with myself.

I wasn’t always like this. In fact I’d say in my childhood, teenage years and even younger adulthood I cherished time with others. I enjoyed being in larger groups. Those types of gatherings gave me energy.

As I’ve gotten older much has changed. I still make time for those that matter the most to me but I so very much value the time to just be with myself. I think, partially, it’s my mind’s own way of showing me that I can be own my own with just me. So much of our lives, at times, are defined by the people we spend our time with day in and day out. Recently there was a brief moment I had forgotten that sometimes I just like to be with myself, by myself.

But, in all that, there is a healthy balance. After all, as the old saying goes, no man or woman is an island. I am aware of times that I’ve gotten too lost in just being by myself. In those moments I turn to my circle to make sure to check in and reconnect. We shouldn’t live in pure isolation. We need others as much as they need us. There is a joy in time we spend with others and the growth that occurs from those interactions.

But, I feel better knowing I love spending time with just myself too. There’s a comfort in knowing that.

What do you do to make sure you make enough time to spend with yourself?